Loving What Is
A transformative guide to stress relief and relationship improvement through self-inquiry and acceptance.
Summary of 5 Key Points
Key Points
- Discovering ‘The Work’
- Understanding your thoughts and emotions
- The Four Questions explained
- Applying ‘The Work’ in relationships
- The power of acceptance
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Discovering ‘The Work’
‘The Work’ is a transformative process that involves four questions aimed at examining one’s thoughts and beliefs. It begins by identifying a stressful thought or belief, which is often about something we perceive as harmful or threatening to our well-being. The first question asks, ‘Is it true?’ which prompts us to question the validity of our thought or belief…Read&Listen More
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Understanding your thoughts and emotions
Understanding your thoughts and emotions is a profound and insightful journey that requires cognitive introspection. This process is not an overnight endeavor but requires patience, openness, and self-acceptance. It demands you to question the validity of your thoughts and emotions, and to deeply reflect on their origins and impacts on your life. This exploration helps you cultivate self-awareness, leading to the discovery of the triggers that induce negative emotions and thoughts…Read&Listen More
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The Four Questions explained
The Four Questions, proposed in ‘Loving What Is,’ are a powerful tool for self-inquiry and personal transformation. The first question encourages us to examine whether a specific thought or belief is true. This question is designed to confront the reality of our thoughts and challenge our assumptions. As we answer this question, we often find that our beliefs are not founded on facts, but rather on subjective interpretations or misperceptions…Read&Listen More
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Applying ‘The Work’ in relationships
Applying ‘The Work’ in relationships involves using a process to question the thoughts that cause suffering. It starts by identifying stressful thoughts related to a partner, family member, or any relationship dynamic. The individual is encouraged to be specific about the situation and the thoughts that are troubling them. This could be anything from ‘My partner doesn’t listen to me’ to ‘My mother should be more understanding.’ By pinpointing these thoughts, one can begin the inquiry process…Read&Listen More
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The power of acceptance
The power of acceptance hinges on the understanding that our thoughts and beliefs shape our reality. It is not the events of our lives that cause us pain or happiness, but our interpretations of them. Each of us has the power to change our interpretation and thereby change our experience of the world. This is not to say that we can or should ignore the realities of life; rather, it’s about learning to accept them without judgement or resistance…Read&Listen More