The Coaching Habit
Transform your leadership style with seven simple coaching questions.
Summary of 7 Key Points
Key Points
- The Kickstart Question: Starting Conversations More Effectively
- The AWE Question: Helping People Find Their Own Solutions
- The Lazy Question: Empowerment Through Delegation
- The Strategic Question: Focusing on the Real Issue
- The Learning Question: Facilitating Insight and Understanding
- The Foundation Question: Building Trust in Relationships
- The Drama-Free Question: Reducing Tension and Conflict
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The Kickstart Question: Starting Conversations More Effectively
The Kickstart Question is about initiating conversations in a productive and efficient way. It allows you to bypass trivial small talk and start the conversation with focus and purpose. Instead of asking how someone’s day was or if there’s anything new, the Kickstart Question dives right into the heart of the matter. It’s about asking what the most important challenge the person is facing is, which sets the tone for a conversation that really matters…Read&Listen More
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The AWE Question: Helping People Find Their Own Solutions
The AWE (And What Else) question is a powerful tool designed to help people find their own solutions. Rather than imposing your own ideas or solutions, the AWE question prompts the individual to dig deeper, exploring their thoughts, feelings, and motivations. It sparks curiosity, encourages reflection, and fosters a sense of agency and self-efficacy. ..Read&Listen More
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The Lazy Question: Empowerment Through Delegation
The ‘Lazy Question’ prompts us to examine how we can best empower others through delegation. It is a simple but powerful query: ‘How can I help?’ This question encourages us to step back, relinquish control and allow others to take the initiative. It shifts the responsibility from the one who asks the question to the one who answers it, allowing the latter to define what kind of support they need…Read&Listen More
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The Strategic Question: Focusing on the Real Issue
The strategic question is a vital technique that focuses on identifying and addressing the real issue at hand. It involves asking ‘what’s the real challenge here for you?’ This question pushes to uncover the true problem, not just the first problem presented. It helps to get to the heart of a matter, providing a deeper and more comprehensive understanding of the situation at hand…Read&Listen More
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The Learning Question: Facilitating Insight and Understanding
The Learning Question is designed to facilitate insight and understanding, urging individuals to extract learning from their experiences. This question often takes the form of ‘What was most useful or valuable for you in this conversation?’ or similar queries. This question inherently encourages personal reflection and introspection, asking individuals to identify valuable takeaways from the discussion themselves rather than having them pointed out by someone else…Read&Listen More
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The Foundation Question: Building Trust in Relationships
The foundation question in building trust in relationships is ‘What do you want?’. This question is essential as it pushes the individual to think about their needs and desires. It aims to foster an environment of openness and trust by making space for the individual’s ideas and letting them steer the conversation. It’s a way of showing respect for their thoughts and opinions…Read&Listen More
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The Drama-Free Question: Reducing Tension and Conflict
The Drama-Free Question in the ‘The Coaching Habit’ is designed to defuse potentially stressful or confrontational situations. It provides a non-threatening way to address issues that could potentially cause a lot of friction. Instead of letting emotions take over, this type of questioning allows the coach and the person being coached to focus on the problem at hand and find a solution together. The key is to ask what the other person would do in a given situation, what their thoughts are, or how they would handle a particular issue…Read&Listen More