The Four Tendencies
Unveils personality profiles to navigate life and understand behaviors better.
Summary of 7 Key Points
Key Points
- Upholder: Responding readily to outer and inner expectations
- Questioner: Questioning all expectations; will meet an expectation if they believe it’s justified
- Obliger: Meeting outer expectations, but struggling to meet expectations they impose on themselves
- Rebel: Resisting all expectations, outer and inner alike
- Using the Four Tendencies in practical scenarios
- Strategies for dealing with different Tendencies
- Self-assessment for determining one’s Tendency
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Upholder: Responding readily to outer and inner expectations
Upholders are characterized by their prompt response to both outer and inner expectations. They are not only able to meet the requirements or demands set for others but also self-imposed objectives or standards. This is because they are motivated by a deep sense of duty and adherence to rules, deadlines, and schedules. They perceive these parameters not as constraints, but as a framework that facilitates efficiency and accomplishment…Read&Listen More
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Questioner: Questioning all expectations; will meet an expectation if they believe it’s justified
The questioner is a character who possesses an inquisitive nature, always seeking the rationale behind every expectation. They are not ones to blindly follow instructions or adhere to norms. Instead, they require logical reasoning and a solid justification before they choose to meet an expectation. This propensity for questioning might stem from a deep-rooted desire for understanding or a simple intolerance for ambiguity…Read&Listen More
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Obliger: Meeting outer expectations, but struggling to meet expectations they impose on themselves
The Obliger type, as described, is the one who readily meets external expectations but often struggles when it comes to meeting their own internal expectations. This is the individual who will always be there to deliver when others are counting on them, but somehow, when it comes to pursuing their personal goals or sticking to their self-imposed deadlines, they falter…Read&Listen More
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Rebel: Resisting all expectations, outer and inner alike
The Rebel is the least common of the four tendencies. Rebels resist all sorts of expectations, both outer and inner. This means they don’t do things because they are supposed to, neither do they do something just because they told themselves they would. They act in ways that align with their identity and what feels right to them in the moment…Read&Listen More
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Using the Four Tendencies in practical scenarios
Understanding the Four Tendencies – Upholder, Questioner, Obliger, and Rebel – can be invaluable in practical scenarios. Each tendency responds to expectations differently. Upholders meet both outer and inner expectations, meaning they are self-motivated and reliable. In a practical scenario, they are the people who thrive on routine and structure, and are likely to follow through on their commitments without much external prompting or persuasion…Read&Listen More
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Strategies for dealing with different Tendencies
In dealing with Upholders, one can appeal to their sense of duty and their desire to meet both inner and outer expectations. They are self-motivated and reliable, and can be engaged by setting clear expectations and goals. Upholders are also responsive to reasons and justifications if they do not want to comply immediately. ..Read&Listen More
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Self-assessment for determining one’s Tendency
The self-assessment for determining one’s Tendency is a reflective process involving introspection and thoughtful consideration. It involves understanding four main Tendencies each of us may exhibit: Upholder, Obliger, Questioner, and Rebel. Each of these Tendencies reflects how we respond to our internal and external expectations…Read&Listen More